ARTICLE OF THE MONTH (JUNE 2019) - Emotional abuse
Emotional abuse in any form is considered psychologically harmful. At this point, it is worth pointing out that the protection of the child is influenced by internal and environmental factors that prevent children from being even more affected. In addition to the aforementioned factors, external factors are also important in the positive changes of the individual through various interventions. The article presents views on emotional abuse and the very nature of children who are often victims of emotional abuse. In the article, the author also defines the concept of emotional abuse and various methods, procedures and results, and presents us the positions of fourteen adults who were abused in their childhood. He describes their stories and presents their real troubles, as well as the solutions that children as they set up in difficult times at that time when they were victims of their parents or other persons.
We must be aware that not all children experience the experience of emotional abuse. If we compared emotional abuse with sexual abuse, we could say that the measure is the same among them. Shengold (1989) defines emotional abuse as a "soul killer", since it is believed that the abuse of this kind results in a potentially destructive force that can defeat an individual. It's a bad thing if this individual is a child with minimal defensive factors. Some factors in the child's severe distress are on the side of the child, but differently, depending on the individual. The measure of emotional damage caused depends on the child's personal characteristics and cognitive abilities. A great deal of defense (protection), but also intelligence and the character of a child. Finally, it is a victim of children without life experience and the necessary knowledge to manage such relationships. The 10 - year - old has a limited time in order to be able to react effectively or protect himself from abuse. In some ways, the child loses control, he has a feeling that he is defeated and that he is in total control of the agent of abuse.
Concept - Emotional abuse T
he article presents a study based on the question of whether a positive environmental factor is present in the victim's life. It seems that children are often abused by their parents, although the functioning of their children is quite fine. In America and England, under the term "emotional abuse", they are psychological maltreatment. Emotional abuse is the only primary form of psychological abuse.
Profiles of victims of abuse
In the article, the confidentiality of data on victims of the name changed. Adam lived with his parents and sister in the English middle-class family. His father was cold at his criticism, but he was rather harsh, which prevented his mother from returning her favor.
Amy was raised as an African-American two-parent family in England. Her biological father was a political activist during World War II (African American GI). He was rigid, he controlled it. He was also repeatedly tyrannical, which, like Adam's mother, also prevented Amy's mom from showing affection.
Eshini's parents belonged to the cultural heritage of Ireland and the Asian tradition. Eshina's mom was cold and very critical to her. She showed more affection for her younger brother, who divorced Esho from her father by persuading her father that she was a "great man".
Harry's parents were successful middle-class whites, but they were rejected. They saw him as ugly, untalented, and weird. On the contrary, his brothers and sisters were seen as pleasant, and they saw potential in them.
During his development, Joy witnessed the violence that his mother had done against his father. His father was in bad health, but his mother was working hard with him. Her sister did not protect her father just like Joy, so she could have made an alliance with her violent mother.
Kate came from a wealthy family in which the father dominated. Everyone in the family had to follow the rules unconditionally and be obedient to the demands of his father. Her mother did not show sympathy; she preferred to submit to the regime of the dominant father.
Lynne: Her father was very violent to her mother, and she also humiliated the children. It often happened that he terrorized the family with a knife while sitting, and they were not even allowed to move. Luke was conceived while his "father" was at work. He was the actual "souvenir" of his mother's adultery. His brothers received praise and favor, while he was excluded when receiving it. Already in his early teens, Luke lived virtually on the road where he fell into crime and drug abuse.
The Niamhina family came from Ireland (Eire - the Irish name for the island of Ireland). Her mother was mentally unstable and her father suffered from mental illness. Niamh became a caregiver to her parents, as well as a caregiver to her younger sisters and brothers. Her father strongly criticized her and blamed her for every thing that went wrong.
Pia came from an isolated peasant family in which a father exercised a tyrannical control over all the children. Among other things, he threatened them and humiliated them. Sometimes he performed strange tricks over them, but he never showed his affection.
Roy witnessed the extreme violence of his father over his mother, who therefore stayed in the hospital several times. Roy considered his father to be worthless, he rules that he is a pity of space, repeatedly giving him repeated recurring tasks.
Sue came from a working family. Mother was fond of Sue and her sister, but after their 11th year they became hostile to them. Their father did not cooperate in family matters.
Una was always indignant in her family system by her father. He told her that it was useless and unloved, just as Roy was also receiving recurring eternal tasks. She did not feel sympathetic by her parents.
Zoe's mother cultivated a rebellious relationship with her daughter. Zoe suffered a disease called spina bifida - the child's vertebrae does not form perfectly, because of what her mother said she would want her to die at birth. Her father was estranged and did not interfere in family affairs.
It is important that abused children in the family find some kind of support. These may be old parents, aunts, and uncle. The problem in Zoe's family was, besides the disease, that she did not receive any emotional sympathy. It was the same in Harry's case. The most important factor in the maintenance of emotional abuse in eight victims was the tetin figure. In Roy's case, the mother's friend took the role of aunt, and her mother's mother, of course, aunt. We must understand the aunt's figure as a supporter and provide positive experiences, which created a sense of worth in the child. Kate was a positive experience and experienced the support of her aunt in the gifts she had sent to her, even though these were only underpants that made Kate feel attractive. In Lukov's case, a positive experience was built by his uncle, who was kind to him and taught karate.
Other support groups
Emotionally abused individuals can also find support for their friends or groups of peers with whom they hang out. Luke, for example, he concluded the alliance with another boy who was in similar situations, equally "treated" like Luke - like a freak. For five survivors - Joy, Pio, Luke, Roya and Kate, their teacher played a key role in creating a change in their self. Children can also find support and, in particular, safety with various sports trainers. Of course there are negative aspects in school cases. Pia was, for example, sexually abused by his teacher. Being accepted by the religious group is something special. In the lives of the children Luka, Eshe, Amy, Kate and Adama, especially in their adolescent and early adulthood, religious experience and inclusion into the group represented an important life milestone.
Inhuman factors Pets, insofar as they were allowed for children, played an important role in experiencing emotional abuse. They also endured the same family atmosphere in some way. It is known that the girls Kate, Amy and Una had dogs. Sue and Roy are cats. Roy was very attached to his pet because, as he said, his kit did not scream at him, but he was in the area and "muzzled." There is a possibility that emotionally abused children suffer their pets, which can be recognized as a consequence and a form of experiencing emotional abuse. In Uninem, the dog played an important role of a brother and a friend. Una told her that, just like her, her father was violent and cruel to her pet. He repeatedly beat him a lot, which Uni meant that he was not the only one who suffers and that he is not alone in the situation. Likewise, toys, books play an important role in the victim's experience of emotional abuse. However, we must be aware that cases of emotional abuse are of a serious nature. Victims have difficulty coping with the consequences and past experiences. There may be cases of non-functionality of victim action, excessive eating, anorexia and even cases of attempted suicide, as has been shown in Lukov and Piina case.
Celia Doyle, 2001, Surviving and Coping with Emotial Abuse in Childhood, University College Northampton, UK
Shengold L., 1989, Soul murder. New Haven, CT: Yale University Press